Improving the resilience in your children has never been more important than it is now. Kids live in a world of instant messages, 24/7 communication as well as an expectation to look great all the time. There is a need to build resilience and the ability to “bounce back” as this is vital to a healthy life.
- Research has found online bullying affects 35% of our 11-17-year-olds. How would you like to build their confidence so that they become mentally stronger?
- In another report, the Advertising Association found nearly half of the girl’s surveyed (47%) agreed that seeing models made them conscious of their looks. (Children’s Society)
- This could affect their confidence and self-esteem in addition to how they feel about themselves.
- As a result of social media, there are also people talking openly about mental health such as depression and anxiety. Young people are also more likely to be exposed to friends, family and celebrities being diagnosed with an illness. Unfortunately, research shows that people are reluctant to speak out about mental illness but it is important to get support. (Insider.com)
Resilient kids. Advice around creating resilience in your children
When creating a course around resilience in children, I soon realised the importance of teaching them problem-solving skills and the ability to handle difficult situations. In a survey released by NHS digital, it showed a rise in young peoples’ mental health.
One is eight young people aged between 5-19 years old have been diagnosed with mental health problems. Anxiety and depression have risen by 48% since 2004. We have a duty to help teach kids the concept of resilience and arm them so they can handle challenges and solve problems.
Looking at how to encourage children and young people starts with important characteristics. Such as recognising failure and feedback so that you can learn for the next time.
It is vital to build resilience in your children. We need to teach them coping skills so that they are healthy and have all the resources needed.
- Improving competence in children starts with giving them opportunities. Each child has to feel they can succeed in something so that they feel self-worth. Starting small, allows them to accept feedback and “bounce back”. A great example I often use with young people is JK Rowling. She was rejected 12 times before a publisher took a chance on her.
- Confidence comes in many forms, as Michael Jordan talks about below. Letting down others can affect confidence but to help children develop you must give specific praise. However, when confident children fail they are more likely to fault find so they improve. That is a very powerful mindset to create.
My courses have the key characteristics needed to build resilience in your children.
Top tips to be Resilient and Resourceful
Resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties and setbacks.
It does not mean that you are immune from stressful situations but means you find ways to cope.
These are my top tips to build resilience in your children.
- Being optimistic – This is having that desire to see the positive in everything you do and be happy. Helping young people achieve this starts with modelling behaviours such as parents or teachers.
- Controlling emotions – Not allowing outside influences to change your mood. Take a breath and reframe what has happened into an experience to learn from. How you cope with stressful situations such as the “fight or flight” response is taught on my courses.
- Control that impulse – This is about being able to quickly analyse what you have and not make snap, rash decisions. Take a moment to decide what would others do with the same information.
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