Improving the resilience in your children has never been more important than it is now. Kids live in a world of instant messages, 24/7 communication as well as an expectation to look great all the time. There is a need to build resilience and the ability to “bounce back” as this is vital to a healthy life.
- Research has found online bullying affects 35% of our 11-17-year-olds. How would you like to build their confidence so that they become mentally stronger?
- In another report, the Advertising Association found nearly half of the girl’s surveyed (47%) agreed that seeing models made them conscious of their looks. (Children’s Society)
- This could affect their confidence and self-esteem in addition to how they feel about themselves.
- As a result of social media, there are also people talking openly about mental health such as depression and anxiety. Young people are also more likely to be exposed to friends, family and celebrities being diagnosed with an illness. Unfortunately, research shows that people are reluctant to speak out about mental illness but it is important to get support. (Insider.com)
Resilient kids. Advice around creating resilience in your children
When creating a course around resilience in children, I soon realised the importance of teaching them problem-solving skills and the ability to handle difficult situations. In a survey released by NHS digital, it showed a rise in young peoples’ mental health.
One in eight young people aged between 5-19 years old has been diagnosed with mental health problems. Anxiety and depression have risen by 48% since 2004. We have a duty to help teach kids the concept of resilience and arm them so they can handle challenges and solve problems.
Looking at how to encourage children and young people starts with important characteristics. Such as recognising failure and feedback so that you can learn for the next time.
It is vital to build resilience in your children. We need to teach them coping skills so that they are healthy and have all the resources needed.
- Improving competence in children starts with giving them opportunities. Each child has to feel they can succeed in something so that they feel self-worth.
Starting small, allows them to accept feedback and “bounce back”. A great example I often use with young people is JK Rowling. She was rejected 12 times before a publisher took a chance on her.
- Confidence comes in many forms, as Michael Jordan talks about below. Letting down others can affect confidence but to help children develop you must give specific praise. However, when confident children fail they are more likely to fault find so they improve. That is a very powerful mindset to create.
My courses have the key characteristics needed to build resilience in your children.
Raising resilient children: Top tips to be Resilient and Resourceful
Resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties and setbacks.
It does not mean that you are immune from stressful situations but means you find ways to cope.
These are my top tips to build resilience in your children.
- Being optimistic. This is having that desire to see the positive in everything you do and be happy. Helping young people achieve this starts with modelling behaviours such as parents or teachers. The atmosphere at home is very influential in a child’s mind and in their behaviour.
- Controlling emotions. Not allowing outside influences to change your mood. Take a breath and reframe what has happened into an experience to learn from. How you cope with stressful situations such as the “fight or flight” response is one of the key principles taught in my courses.
- Control that impulse. This is about being able to quickly analyse what you have and not make snap, rash decisions. Take a moment to decide what would others do with the same information. It is very rare that our first reaction will bring about the best outcome.
- Exercise is very important. Physical health also plays a major part. Encourage outdoor activities as much as you can and get them off social media as much as possible. Expose them to as many different types of activity as you can to which ones resonate the most. Parents will often focus on the sports and activities that they were drawn to. Let them decide for themselves, just like you did.
- Life Experiences count for a lot. Staring at the smartphone and television screen all day is not going to give you a great deal of life experience. Get out into the world and live it in 3D, not on a computer screen. Life is for living and life experiences create a more rounded individual.
If you want to find out more about my Resilience Workshops or work with me on one of my programmes. Then you should call me today on 07984 493 798
Resilience in your children. How do our values and beliefs build resilience?
The word discipline has a history of being something to avoid but being disciplined is vital. When we have a disciplined character it can help our self-respect so that our confidence grows. This self-respect grows out of the ability to set standards of behaviour. Building self-respect is important. It means it is more likely children feel valued and will treat others that way.
Self-respect and resilience create a strong sense of being someone in life. This means they are far less likely to be bullied or, indeed, to be a bully themselves. This self-respect comes from upbringing, peers and how the young person feels about themselves.
To set these strong values and beliefs at an early age is to set the right example. Kids learn from the moment they are born so aim to start teaching resilience from day one. Between the age of 0-7 years a parent, relative, friend or incident impacts on the rest of the child’s life. These are the relationships and values they will remember and cherish for the rest of their lives.
The Clarity and momentum programme sets out the journey for your child to take. The coping strategies and accountability to change will instil strong values and beliefs.
Learn Resilience. Help your children to become more resilient.
The programmes that are right for your children will build their confidence, respect for others so that their resilience shines.
Our Breakthrough and progress with life’s challenges programme guarantee an increase in self-confidence and wellbeing. This programme looks at improving social skills that are important for building blocks for resilience.
The programme will also help your child develop positive outlooks on relationships at school and home so that they feel part of society. There is nothing better for a child than to feel comfortable with who they are and feel able to cope with the things that modern life throws at them.
To increase their self-confidence and wellbeing please take a look at my resilience programmes and make that call.
If you want to book your free discovery call for yourself or your children then why not call today. Find out how to build resilience in your children by calling me today 07984 493798