There is so much Stress in Young People’s lives but you can learn how to build resilience in children so that you can reduce their stress and anxiety.
- Did you know 60% of young people (aged 18 to 24) have felt so stressed by the pressure to succeed that they have felt overwhelmed or unable to cope?
- Also, 57% of young people have felt so stressed because of the fear that they are making mistakes.
- Astonishingly 39% of young people have said they had experienced suicidal feelings because of stress.
- As a result, 29% of young people said they had self-harmed because of these high levels of stress. (source Mental Health Foundation)
In a survey, it highlighted just how vulnerable young people are to mental health problems. Research has shown that three quarters of mental health problems are established in people by the age of 24.
This is why it is important young people receive the very best mental health education. As this can promote their wellbeing and resilience so that they seek help early.
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Recognise Stress and Anxiety so you can “bounce back”
If you want to “bounce back and build resilience then first you need to recognise stress and anxiety. How you think about stress can also change your bodies response to it.
Stress is vital to your survival but can also make you more sociable. If you are overwhelmed by stress, then your “fight or flight” mechanism can trigger the wrong response.
- How much pressure do you put on your children at exam times?
- When your children are showing signs of stress and anxiety, how do you respond? Fight or flight?
- What reaction do you display to slight mistakes by drivers on the road even though you make mistakes too? What does this show your children?
Leading Psychologist Kelly McGonigal has studied stress and admits she got it wrong. She has always thought stress was the enemy and made you sick. What she has now found is that it can also be your friend.
So should we all learn how to build resilience in children so that we can all reduce our own stress and anxiety?
How can we change our outlook on life?
If we were to look at how to reduce stress in young people’s lives then we might need to look at ourselves too.
How you think about stress could make the difference between poor health or longevity.
If you respond to stress in a positive way then it releases powerful healthy hormones such as Oxytocin. This is known sometimes as the “cuddle hormone” and it counters the effects of cortisol, which is known as the stress hormone.
What is interesting from my studies is that we can change the stress in young people’s life by changing our views. Teaching our children to bounce back and treat stress and anxiety as a challenge can alter their mindset.
- Are your children scared of making mistakes because of the reaction a parent will give back?
- Is the pressure to succeed created by the parent because the child has to fulfil their dreams and not their own?
Who says these social norms are required or even acceptable pressure to put on a child?
Creating Positive Change and Aspiration
Creating that positive change so that you can reduce stress and anxiety must start at home.
If you also introduce a resilience coach so that they can introduce a “bounce back” programme, this can increase results.
One way a resilience coach can bring about change is by goal-mapping. The system highlights life-long skills which can raise aspirations, set expectations and make attaining goals realistic.
The aim of this approach is to:
- Help communicate the importance of setting regular goals so that we challenge ourselves.
- Building self-belief and confidence which then leads to creating that “bounce back” attitude.
- To recognise the universal laws of success as an approach to living life and achievement.
These approaches are what we use in performance coaching which is why some of my customers achieve remarkable success.
The reason athletes perform at their peak is their belief in their ability to overcome obstacles. They feel peak performance is within their control and their belief keeps them motivated to perform.
A resilience coach can work to enhance that mindset in their clients. It is rare you hear a sports star use the words “I will TRY and do that”. The language used here is far more positive such as “I WILL do that”.
Achieving Success so that you can “bounce back”
We can empower young people to succeed and relieve that pressure that stress and anxiety can create if not harnessed.
If you want to work with me so that we look at ways to create the following;
- A culture where young people don’t feel overwhelmed or unable to cope.
- Where they embrace mistakes as learning and use that stress as energy to succeed so that fear is transmitted positively.
- Learn how to change those desperate feelings into positive ones so that oxytocin creates life-changing effects.